I have a theory about piñatas:
It was a man who invented the first piñata,
but it was his wife who filled it with candy.
What’s a piñata? Here’s a quick definition:
Hispanic - a decorated papier-mâché container of candy or small gifts that is hung and is hit and broken open by a blindfolded person.
If you’ve ever watched America’s Funniest Videos, then you are familiar with piñatas. What makes them exciting for the children is candy (flavored sugar)! What makes them exciting for the adults is the same sense of danger in skydiving or bungee jumping. When the children unleash their blindfolded fury on the unsuspecting piñata, this sense of dread is replaced by either the explosion of candy raining from above, or the explosion of pain in some adult who was not paying close enough attention.
Sometimes, life is like that. Some days you’re on the giving end of the stick and some days you’re on the receiving end. Sometimes life comes at us in a fury of blows.
My favorite instructor once stated, “Life is neither neat, nor fair. But, life is good and worth the living.” This is true.
The question then, is this: when life is messy and unfair, or even scary and painful - when life hits you unexpectedly, and then hits you again – what comes out of you? Is it sweet? Uplifting? Honoring? Or, does it tend to be harsh? Abrasive? Insulting? When you are overly stressed (and that is almost everyone at some point), do your words and actions and attitudes build people up or tear them down?
I am convinced that our actions reveal our beliefs. In other words, our beliefs are revealed in our actions. What will our actions and attitudes teach our children about handling the pressures of life? How will our children learn to handle relational friction by watching our example? What will we model as the correct way to handle the problems in life?
Do we talk about forgiveness? That’s good. Then, do we walk the talk - putting our advice into action? That is very good! When our children see us live the example of what we teach them, they see our words put into action. We teach by saying do as I say, and here is how you do it.
They will see that when life is messy and unfair, or even scary and painful - when life hits you unexpectedly, and then hits you again – what comes out of you can be sweet… uplifting… even honoring to God and others. They will learn that words and actions and attitudes can build people up instead of tearing them down.